Is There a Right Time to Have Sex Without a Condom?

Today I was listening to my local radio station here in the ATL and they have what is called scruples Wednesday. The question that was asked was when is the correct time to have sex without a condom? Apparently a female was involved in a sexual act and her partner removed the condom without advising her. Hence the question.In my opinion there is really no correct time unless you and your partner are tested and not just for HIV but for everything and more than once. With that said I thought I would give you all some number's on ST D's one out of every five persons has the Herpes and only one third of that number is aware that they have the disease. There are 19 million new STD cases diagnosed annually and half are young adults between the ages of 15 and 24. So I ask when do you feel that it is cool to have intercourse of any kind without a condom? We all have done it me included and I have taken my test and waited nervous as hell for my results and have thanked God every time for that negative test result but when is enough; enough ? (I hope that everyone agrees that the only safe sex is no sex) Even when you are married unless you are both virgins and for the record a man can always be a virgin unless he has children then the cat is out of the bag. If he has no little ones running around he can say I'm a virgin and ladies we really have no way to dispute this. We ladies on the other hand are virgins only once and once it is gone it's gone. So if you are young and still a virgin protect your innocence until you find someone that respects you enough to not only be tested but to also wait until your ready. So for the questions Is there a right time to have sex without a condom? NO unless you and him have several piece's of paper that say negative for all sexually transmitted diseases and for me he would still need to glove up !

TODAY IS WORLD AIDS DAY!

Well today is the day that we are suppose to advocate HIV/AIDS awareness by wearing a red ribbon to promote dialogue about the AIDS virus. I listened to several radio morning shows today here in the Atlanta area and I was actually surprised at how little was said on black radio this morning. I know that Tom Joyner had a big thing going on for the last couple of weeks but I noticed that there was not much done on the stations that play a lot more Hip Hop & R&B. I was shocked by this especially in black radio seeing that the statistics show that HIV effecting the black community more than any other ethnicity. I hear so much about HIV/AIDS in Africa and the country is really being over run by this disease but we should also be putting the same amount of energy on HIV/AIDS here in America. I hope that everyone takes the time to talk about this disease today and goes to be tested. If you would like more information on this disease and how to find testing in your area please refer to the links on this page.

WORLD AIDS DAY !

Friday December 1st is World AIDS Day. The World Health Organization established World AIDS Day in 1988 to focus global attention on the devastating impact of the HIV/AIDS epidemic. They have used a red ribbon as the international symbol of HIV for fifteen years. I have decided that I am going to put on my ribbon and wear it everyday until the next World AIDS Day December 1st 2007. Wearing a red ribbon is one of the easiest ways you can make a difference on December 1st. Not just by wearing one yourself, but also encouraging your friends, colleagues and family to wear one as well. If wearing one little ribbon sparks one conversation on this deadly disease then it is well worth wearing.
What are you planning on doing for World AIDS Day? How about going to get tested and taking a friend or your partner with you. I'm tested for HIV every year and by the grace of God I'm clean now I'm not an out there person but I'm sure that everyone has had a moment when they did not use the best judgment and that's all that it takes is a moment. Our community the African American community wants to stay quite about this disease. The church wants to blame it on homosexuality and promiscuity but there is a lot more to it than those two things. We have to start making each other feel comfortable about talking about HIV/AIDS and homosexuality and everything else that is happening in our community. Just because we talk about it does not mean that we condone certain behaviors but it will make it easier for people to come out and be who they are. We have to demand that our pastors speak about the disease not who they think has it or what they think has caused. We need to talk about protection and testing. Abstinence is cool but realistically not everyone is going to practice abstinence’s. We have to start when our kids our young because they are being effected and infected. So please do your part on December 1st talk about it and get tested because knowing is half the battle!

AIDS Facts For African Americans.

HIV/AIDS Epidemic among African Americans,

All data is from static’s found on the Center for Disease Control Website as of 2004 so the numbers will have changed drastically. In 2004 African Americans who make up approximately 12% of the US population, accounted for half of the estimated number of HIV/AIDS cases diagnosed. The break down is as follows of the 38,730 diagnosed in 2004 50% were African American, 30% were Caucasian, 18% were Hispanic, 1% Asian Pacific Islander and 1% American Indian/ Alaska Native.
AIDS is becoming the leading cause of death for African Americans it is the second leading cause of death for All African Americans between the ages of 35-44 and the NUMBER ONE cause of death for African American Women between the ages of 25-34. Of the all most 1 million cases of AIDS diagnosed in the US 40% were African Americans. Of the more than half a million people who have died with AIDS 30% were African American. In 2004 more African American children under the age of 13 were living with AIDS than all other races or ethnicities living with AIDS combined.
We have to ask ourselves why this disease is disproportionately affecting the African American community. The numbers are growing at an alarming rate and this disease (HIV/AIDS) is taking a devastating toll on the African American community. We have to begin to discuss prevention as wells as testing. It is estimated that of the 1 Million AIDS cases in America 25% of those affected are unaware of there status.....

We have to ask why we are not getting tested. What can we do to increase awareness and prevention? What are the leading causes of infection? I am afraid to think of what will happen to us as a race if we continue to ignore this and sweep it under the rug. So let’s do something to change the numbers and wake up our communities. You can either be a part of the problem or a part of the solution.